Sir Marvelous

Your Kinky Consultant and Pleasure & Intimacy Coach

Welcome. You’ve Found Something MARVELOUS.

Maybe you heard me on one of your favorite sex-positive podcasts. Maybe a trusted friend sent you my way. Or maybe you discovered me on Instagram or LoyalFans and felt something spark. However you landed here, welcome. I’m glad you’re here.

I’m Sir Marvelous, a Professional Sensual BDSM Dominant, intimacy and pleasure coach, kink educator, and fire play connoisseur. With over a decade of experience, I teach the art and science of arousal, consent, power exchange, and erotic communication.

I blend technique, psychology, and sensuality to help individuals and couples unlock their full erotic potential, not just in theory, but in practice.

I curate an atmosphere where students and clients can learn not only what makes them tick, but also the science behind why something may be pleasurable and how it can be utilized in the future.

No matter if you are a person who is working on having a more open mindset toward pleasure, having difficulty connecting with your partner or yourself, or you have always wanted to explore pleasure in new ways but didn’t know where to start, I can point you in the right direction!

My experience working with women and their partners in such an intimate manner for the past 7+ years has been the perfect focus group and case study. Knowing what works and understanding why it works to enhance pleasure can be a MARVELOUS game-changer for anyone looking to bring something new to the bedroom and their mindset around pleasure.

My Mission

My work centers on destigmatizing kink and BDSM, particularly for Black and Brown communities. I create spaces, both online and in person where people can explore their desires without shame, learn the language of consent, and reclaim pleasure.

I don’t just teach how to have better sex. I teach how to have deeper, more connected, more intentional pleasure experiences…the kind that transform relationships with both self and others.

What I Offer

I offer:

  • Virtual 1-on-1 and group coaching on kink exploration and pleasure

  • Workshops and speaking engagements for events, organizations, and media

  • Consulting for film, TV, and creative productions

  • In-person guidance sessions for women and couples

  • Educational content and resources for ongoing learning

Wherever you are on your journey - curious, cautious, or craving more - I meet you there and guide you forward.

If you’re ready to work with me whether through coaching, an event, a session, or a collaborative project, start by exploring the rest of the site. When you're ready, reach out via the appropriate contact form with your inquiry.

Let’s make pleasure intentional. Let’s make it liberating.
Let’s make it MARVELOUS.

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Where you may have seen me…

As the resident Dom for Exxxotica Expo, I've demonstrated my skills live in front of thousands. I’ve also been featured on some of the most popular sex-positive podcasts and platforms. My expertise is trusted by clients, event hosts, and educators alike for my unique ability to merge education, entertainment, and eroticism.

Whether I’m teaching a class, coaching a couple, or consulting on a production, my approach is rooted in professionalism, safety, and liberation.

Featured on...
Sir Marvelous on Come Talk with Aimee
Sir Marvelous on Come Talk with Aimee

Sir Marvelous breaks down edging, sensual dominance, temperature play, rope, fire, and the illusion of danger, along with why vibrators, clitoral stimulation, and thoughtful touch should be standard in every bedroom. We also talk about consent, negotiation, emotional safety, and how those pieces make it possible to relax, let go, and experience pleasure more deeply than ever.

There is no shame in craving deeper pleasure, and there is no shame in wanting sex that feels more intentional and responsive to your body. In this episode, I sit with Pleasure Dom, Sir Marvelous for a conversation on what truly creates mind-blowing pleasure. We explore the foundations of real pleasure through patience, anticipation, presence, and the psychology of arousal. Sir Marvelous breaks down edging, sensual dominance, temperature play, rope, fire, and the illusion of danger, along with why vibrators, clitoral stimulation, and thoughtful touch should be standard in every bedroom. We also talk about consent, negotiation, emotional safety, and how those pieces make it possible to relax, let go, and experience pleasure more deeply than ever. If you are curious about kink, ready to expand your pleasure, or wanting sex that feels richer and more connected, this episode offers practical tools you can take straight into your own intimacy. Listen in!

Sir Marvelous on Sex With Alexa
Sir Marvelous on Sex With Alexa

Real vs Fake Doms: How to Tell Them Apart (ft. Sir Marvelous)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and professional Dom Sir Marvelous for a conversation about real dominance, fake Doms, pleasure-centered sex, and why communication and patience are the foundation of good BDSM—and good sex in general. This episode breaks down what dominance actually looks like beyond performance, how to spot manipulative dynamics early, and why prioritizing pleasure leads to deeper trust, safety, and better sex. In this episode, Alexa and Sir Marvelous discuss:

  • What actually makes someone a real Dom vs a fake Dom

  • Why “pleasure Dom” is often misunderstood and misused

  • How fake Doms weaponize submissive language on dating apps

  • Manipulation, rushing dynamics, and early red flags

  • Patience as the most attractive and essential Dom skill

  • Why dominance is about giving and not controlling

  • Why dominance doesn’t have to include pain, whips, or chains

  • Eating pussy before, during, and after penetration

  • Anxiety, erections, and why losing one isn’t a failure

  • Strap-ons, toys, and removing ego from penetration

  • Asking better questions about pleasure and satisfaction

  • The brain as the biggest sex organ

  • Post-sex debriefing: what worked, what didn’t, what to do more of

  • Advocating for pleasure in Dom/sub dynamics

  • Beginner Dom mistakes to avoid

  • Why Doms should experience submission or bottoming

  • Performative dominance vs authentic presence

Sir Marvelous on The Kink Consultant Podcast
Sir Marvelous on The Kink Consultant Podcast

Ep 39 - What It's Like to Hire a Pro Dom: Pleasure, Boundaries & Power Play with Sir Marvelous

What happens when a professional dom and pleasure coach sits down to unpack the psychology of kink, power, and pleasure?

In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by the brilliant Sir Marvelous, a pro dom, educator, and content creator who's on a mission to make BDSM more accessible, intentional, and deeply satisfying. From his early journey with sex toys to his current work guiding individuals and couples through personalized kinky experiences, this conversation is full of both fire and insight.

We talk about everything from the difference between dominance and leadership, to the importance of safe, ongoing negotiation in kink sessions. Sir Marvelous shares his thoughts on why BDSM isn’t just about play. It’s about learning, evolving, and closing the pleasure gap through communication. We dive into topics like edging, mind play, denial, why submission doesn’t mean weakness, and how even a simple sex toy changed the trajectory of his life (shoutout to that random man outside the NYC sex shop!). He also opens up about his teaching philosophy, the role of ego in intimacy, and the importance of making space for joy, curiosity, and mutual exploration.

If you’ve ever been curious about what it’s like to hire a pro dom, how to introduce kink to your relationship, or why pleasure is something worth investing in, this episode is packed with truth bombs and transformative takeaways. Tune in and discover how BDSM can be a path to connection—not just in the bedroom, but in life.

Sir Marvelous on Your favorite Podcast

  • Whoreible Decisions

  • Cocktales

  • Not Just Another Sex Podcast

  • Hard or Soft (2x)

  • Needs to be Studied

  • Angela Yee’s Lip Service

  • Honestly Tho

  • Late Night with Ler & Lionel

  • Good Moms Bad Choices

  • Triggered AF Podcast

  • 8 At The Table

  • The Cultured Misfits Podcast

  • The Funsexual Podcast

  • The Kink Consultant

  • LuvBites with Dr Tara

A Local Event

  • NorthEast Conference of Kink Fetish Ball (2025)

  • LS Unscripted Live presented by Kelly’s Dreamland (2025)

  • Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit (2025)

  • Geisha House Experience presents Into the Dark Side (2025)

  • The Fet Ball Dallas (2024)

  • So you Wanna Dom? presented by The NSFW (2024)

  • Exxxotica Expo 2024 (DC)

  • Reclaiming Black Sex Erotic Art Show 2023 (ATL)

  • Bedroom Kandi Convention 2022 & 2023

  • Exxxotica Expo 2021 (NJ)

  • Exxxotica Expo 2022 (DC)

  • Good Moms Gone Wild Live Show 2022 (NYC)

  • Sexual Essentials Art XXXhibit 2022

  • Bedroom Kandi Symposium 2022

  • Limitless Luxe LS F.E.D Formal Erotic Dining: The High Protocol Edition 2021

  • Hard or Soft Podcast Live Show 2021 (NYC)

  • Black & Kinky 2021 (NYC)

  • Black & Kinky Dungeon Masquerade 2021 (ATL)

  • Naughty Nytes Not Your Only Valentine 2021 (NYC)