To Sir, with Love…

“I refuse to apologize for what you have awakened in me.” -Bill Compton, True Blood

My journey with Sir Marvelous began at the Reclaiming Black Sex event by Blktouch in Atlanta. I am a single working mother who is in the process of making some significant life changes and needed a getaway. I had been a fan of Blktouch and some of its performers for some time, but for some reason Sir Marvelous had not been in my consciousness.

It was the second night of the event where he and his lovely partner/submissive were performing a demonstration. I was completely captivated. From the sensual 90’s r&b filling the room with is melodic hypnotism, to his movement around his tools and toys, which felt like a dance, to his consideration and care for his partner’s pleasure, safety and security, I had to know more.

I researched, followed him on every platform, tracked down every interview, watched over and over his scene that was on Blktouch. Because what did I just behold? Whatever it was, I knew I needed it. I have recently come back into my sexuality and sexual expression in the recent years after bouts of celibacy and being steeped in purity culture. So not only did I want to explore the boldness of my pleasure, but now I am curious about BDSM and in particular, Sir Marvelous’s approach to it.

I booked my consultation with him and listened as he went through the answers of my BDSM questionnaire. He was incredibly knowledgeable in everything he was saying.

Sir exudes such a quiet confidence in seemingly everything he does and even that came through in his messages and the way he communicated with me. The deposit was paid soon after that and I began making arrangements to visit his dungeon. Even when there were some hiccups in my plans I informed Sir that “nothing but death would keep me from coming (and cumming).” I was serious about this, I had to experience this; experience him.

I’m still reeling and having flashbacks from my session. It was perfect. I got into the city with so much optimism and excitement. The day of I was beside myself with an array of emotions; I was delighted, scared, nervous, horny, happy, geeked and brimming with anticipation. Sir required that I arrive exactly at our time (which I now realize is impossible and boy did I pay for arriving early). Then Sir arrived to get me out the Uber. Y’all, the suit, the smile, the warm hug was everything and helped to keep some of my nerves at bay for the time being.

Beholding the dungeon in person is quite different from anything you have ever seen online in videos or photographs. I could tell that he puts a great amount to detail and care into his upkeep of this magical place. I was trying to play cool on the outside, but being the huge dorky nerd I am, I wanted to squeal and jump up and down. I held it together ok I think.

The negotiation process where Sir walked me through his dungeon and demonstrated on me some of his floggers and other tools was quite an experience. We also had the chance to speak more about my experiences and prioritizing my pleasure.

Sir creates and curates such a sensual atmosphere with the lighting, the music and the tenderness in which he addresses you (in the beginning). His touch was both gentle and strong. I loved how he moved around my body and the attention he paid to my different body parts. That was the most erotic yet subtle thing I had ever experienced.

Before I knew it I was completely nude, exposed and vulnerable in front of Sir. The way he touched me, grabbed me, bit me, kissed my body and moved his body on mine was surprising, welcoming and left me longing. He then introduced different BDSM tools. I was flogged many times and each hit from his hand and floggers left me desiring more. The fire play seemed intimidating, but it was a new sensation that made me feel daring in the face of perceived danger.

His spiked pinwheel made me giggle and squirm as he ran it across my body. The coolness from the metal flogger sent unfamiliar yet pleasurable sensations throughout my body.

The vampire glove…

as someone who once went through a vampire phase, this was a welcome addition. The spikes felt different on the various areas Sir touched. It felt painful on my thighs, but so fucking good on my breasts and around my neck. His primal nature increased the vampiric fantasies that I’ve always had of being devoured by something otherworldly and supernatural.

I was led into another room where I was flogged, stroked with more toys, tortured with more tools. The moans, grunts and pleading were like nothing I have ever heard from myself, but I was so glad Sir was able to summon it out of me. Y’all, he is the real deal, the truth, a professional and a gentleman.

Now, since this is titled “to Sir, with Love”, I must spend the remainder of this review addressing you directly Sir. I need to tell you that this was the single greatest experience of my life. From the consultation to the debrief it was like a sweet dream that I never wanted to wake up from. Seeing you in Atlanta awakened something that was dormant inside me and thank you for giving me the space to be greedy, nerdy, sexy and free. I loved everything you were doing.

You made me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world with how you gave attention to my body, with the affirmations you whispered, with how you seemingly instinctively knew what would increase my capacity for pleasure. I enjoyed being completely present with you. I never wanted our time to end. You were a gracious host and a perfect gentleman.

I felt so completely safe and cared for while with you even when I was being yelled at and flogged. I trusted you and I trusted myself. Thank you for giving me space to relinquish control, to be soft, to be feminine, to allow a strong and secure man such a yourself to lead and I gladly submitted.

I felt desired, adored, prioritized , precious and oh so nasty. You are the first man to touch me in 3 years. And your care of and for me will be remembered forever.

I appreciate how you cared for me during aftercare. I appreciated having a moment to allow my breathing to dissipate as I took in what I had just experienced. I wanted to cry because you have no idea what you did for me.

There was so much more I wanted to share during our debrief, but I just couldn’t cover it all in that moment. I loved everything you did. Thank you for allowing me the space to be my full self. And thank you for being yourself and for your vulnerability. This work that you do is truly needed, unique, appreciated and special. It was my pleasure to gift you (and Syphon) with what I made. It came from my heart.

You made me feel cared for from top to tail. Even making sure the Uber driver put on the heat for me for my ride back to where I was staying. You are such a wonderful person, a beautifully gifted man, true and honest. I cannot sing your praises enough!

Thank you, thank you, thank you, Sir Marvelous.